International Fathers Mental Health Day

Hi All.

On Monday the 18th of June , i shall be joining Mark Williams, and others on twitter discussing Father’s Mental Health from 7-8pm Bst. Around 7.30pm i will be discussing my experiences and knowledge about Paternal OCD and how it can manifest itself , during the maternal stages as a Father.

Over recent years , i have been involved with various talks via the NHS. about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and have engaged with various NHS trusts, and universities in helping to train future therapists and also medical students . I have also been heavily involved with research via the Department of Pyschiatry at the world famous Cambridge University.

I also am an awareness advocate for the UK’s leading charity for those that live with and care for with OCD. which is OCD. ACTION and which runs alongside the superb charity Maternal OCD specific to mums with OCD. >> https://ocdaction.org.uk/https://ocdaction.org.uk/  https://maternalocd.org/https://maternalocd.org/

I have written an article for the Centre for mental health about my lived experience with OCD as a father. Details here > https://www.centreformentalhealth.org.uk/blog/paternal-ocd-ashleys-storyhttps://www.centreformentalhealth.org.uk/blog/paternal-ocd-ashleys-story

I also wrote an article for Men’s Health USA. details here > https://www.menshealth.com/health/a20105787/postpartum-anxiety-ocd-for-men/https://www.menshealth.com/health/a20105787/postpartum-anxiety-ocd-for-men/ 

I also wrote a success story article for Maternal OCD here https://maternalocd.org/success-stories/https://maternalocd.org/success-stories/

Look forwards to tomorrows #DADSMHDAY on twitter and other social media outlets. Do follow @DrAndyMayers and @MarkWilliamsFMH .

Keep sharing your experiences of Mental Health as a Father. It will help so much

 

Ash

 

 

 

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NEW hashtag #OcdCommunity

Hi All !

As some of you may be aware , i used to run weekly chats on twitter under the hashtag #AskAshOCD a recognised # by the Uk’s leading charity mind , where we would discuss various topics , for all those that lived with , and carers /family members alike about OCD. and it was a great resource , that served its purpose well.

Today i thought about how there is a lot of misinformation on twitter at times in regards to ocd , but , importantly there are some really fab people on there who have lived experiences about OCD , not only as a lived experiences , but also those that live and support/care for

So my suggestion is to use the hashtag #OcdCommunity  so that if you are looking for support or advice , it will show up , and therefore we can support each other and importantly direct to correct resources like @maternalOCD and @OCDaction

IF you like you can add #OcdCommunity to your bio , but do NOT feel obliged to do so , and it is all down to personal choice on how one choose’s to use it. REMEMBER your well-being comes first on social media.

Ash

Ocd Action Pre-Conference Meet up Friday March 2nd . 6.30pm.

Hi All.

The OCD ACTION conference takes place this year on Saturday 3rd of March in London. Details here >  http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/national-conference

On the Evening before ,  you are more than welcome to pop by for a friendly meet up , an opportunity to meet with others who share similar experiences , some who may have overcome ocd ,some who are still struggling. Family and carers/friends alike are also more than welcome to join us too.

It will not be a support group type meeting , but a welcoming drink for anyone who is attending the conference the next day, some of you maybe staying overnight on your own etc. So please do pop in if you feel up to it. We are a friendly bunch .

The meet up will start at 6.30 pm and you are free to join us from that time and you are free to leave when ever you feel .

Details of venue are here > https://www.premierinn.com/gb/en/hotels/england/greater-london/london/hub-london-westminster-abbey.html 

21 Tothill Street, Westminster, London SW1H 9LL  

It is the Bar/restaurant  which is attached to the Hotel

 

If you have any further questions , etc. feel free to comment on here , or you can email me ocdash@yahoo.co.uk  and if you are joining us , please do let us know !

Look forwards to meeting you

Ash. @AshleyCurryOcd

 

 

An incredible year that was .. Thank You !

Thought i would write a small article about the year and the OCD / Mental Health work i have done during 2017

I was fortunate enough to have worked alongside some of the best teachers of CBT via various University’s across the Uk. sharing my lived experiences of OCD and Recovery , and engaging with future therapist’s who will go onto hopefully fix people with ocd and go onto lead a life free from the debilitating disorder.

I was a keynote speaker this year at the first Maternal Mental Health Alliance conference , and what a great experience that was. I also got to meet some truly incredible people too , at last .

I have been along to Parliament on three occasions , focusing on getting Fathers better access to treatments during the Maternal stages , an ongoing project which is moving forwards rather swiftly , thanks to my good friend Mark Williams , from father’s reaching out .

I could go on and add further (much more lol) , but i won’t , but what i would like to say to everyone who has engaged with me this year , and asked me to be a part of it all , a massive thank you , i really do appreciate it a lot , and sometimes i have to pinch myself to check that its all real !

2018 looks like it is going to continue in the same way , which is awesome

Once again , i am honoured to have been involved , thank you thank you thank you !

 

Ash 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Anxious about not being anxious .. .

Yes ! Title says it all.

A common theme that crops up in OCD. is where people are , or become very anxious about the irrational thoughts they are having , because the thoughts themselves no longer are bothering them with anxiety , but remain , which leads onto the person becoming petrified by that fact !

Therefore if they are NOT making you  anxious , it must mean i want them , they must be true = Doubt , fear , anxiety , guilt etc = this is ocd at work itself .

So if you do have the thoughts that remain “stuck” but they don’t give off any anxiety , its normal, but also be prepared for OCD to take another devious route , of asking you , with crap doubt , and causing further angst .. BUT implement good CBT , or self help work !

 

Heads up

Ash.

 

 

 

The needless safeguarding procedures ……OCD.

Alas , here i am writing a blog about why people are still going through needless safeguarding procedures, after disclosing their harmless thoughts that are torturing them, if anything they are sharing them because they are requiring help , help which if implemented well can be a life changer that is Cognitive Behavioural Therarpy , and ERP.

Do those that are implementing safeguarding procedures , know about OCD at all ? Do they know that there are no reported cases , EVER , of any person with OCD acting on their unwanted thoughts ! They never do , never have , never will !! No reported cases anywhere in the world ….. So lets look at who decided its a need !!! it isn’t !!!  is it !

On two different occasions recently , during lived experience teaching with IAPT i have heard that some are told to automatically report thoughts of harm/sexual nature to safeguarding protocol , which leads onto unnecessary  angst , wasting of time , resources and  money , which could be put towards resources that help people get better , not making them feel like shit !!! If anything it could actually cause huge damage to a persons well being , and take them back to a worse place than they were before !

Then you hear of people being advised , be careful of who you disclose to , as it can cause pathetic responses of safeguarding by ill informed professionals .. REALLY ?? one would of thought that with the knowledge around about OCD , these are really not required, alas it appears not !!!

Maybe OCD disclosure of thoughts has become a victim of past mistakes that were real , as where in OCD there isn’t a threat , they just want help and support , not another swift kick in the nuts , it hurts , its scary and i speak from lived experience of !!

I was kind of apprehensive of writing this , as i though it might put people off seeking help , but why should i not say it as it is,  its wrong , very ! So please don’t delay if you need advice or support ocd action are fab http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/

 

*Footnote , there can be case of OCD having impacts on those that live with , eg where over usage of chemicals, could impact on others wellbeing , and support should be offered straight away (in an ideal way)

Importance is with the correct help and support ocd is very treatable

Maybe , just maybe if you are unsure as a professional , get one in who knows about ocd rather than needless knee-jerking of safe guarding. Here is a Risk Assessment in OCD a fantastic resource and important article too http://apt.rcpsych.org/content/15/5/332

 

Ash.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Extreme OCD. Channel 5. Review

Hi !

Thought i would write a review on the programme re “Extreme OCD”

Firstly “Extreme OCD” title kind/could of  portrayed ocd in it’s “extreme” so for some , people watching  may of been put off seeking help , if they felt that their OCD wasn’t as severe , or could lead onto a comparison , and of course sometimes people do have OCD and are able to hold down full time jobs , often called “high functioning” and do have difficult , severe OCD , but “can” be palmed off for treatments because they are “high functioners” = can’t be that bad , you are working full time

The programme itself , touched on many variations , and types of OCD that effects a sufferer , and also covered well the impact it has on all those that live and care for on a daily basis. It didn’t stereotype , but we must not put OCD into stereotypical boxes , it has a huge impact , whatever the flavour of the obsessions , same meat just different gravy

Positives of programme , was it gave a good insight into how ocd can manifest itself , and from that i hear reports of people seeking help for the first time, which is fab

Negatives ? Not much really , but very difficult to get it right with such a mix match of variations and types of Ocd , flipping from one person to another .

Thats all really .

 

ash

The importance of diagnosis in ocd , maybe .. ..

I thought I would write a personal view on why it is important to have a diagnosis when you are struggling from a debilitating disorder that is OCD.

For me personally ,after 30 odd years of struggling , without a diagnosis, I had reached rock bottom , the lowest point in my life , I thought I was mad, dangerous , did not deserve to live , due to the abhorrent unwanted thoughts that I may have harmed my children when they were babies , some of the thoughts we of a sexual nature also , it was horrific …. to the point of suicidal ideation ….. I wanted answers and certainty that I had not done these things, I tried many ways of trying to get certainty that I had not done these things , and also I tried many types of compulsions to try and rid myself of the thoughts along with disgusting feelings ….

I could not tolerate it anymore so in desperation I took myself to A/E and requested to be locked away , forever to protect people from the evil person I was lead to believe I was …THIS is where the importance of DIAGNOSIS was critical for me !! The on duty Pysch. sat me down and explained what was happening to my poorly brain , and how OCD manifests itself !!! BANG !!! he also explained I would never have done these things , in the past , it was that I had horrid fears that I may have , and the uncertainty feelings make it feel like you have

SO the importance when a person presents with OCD in thee first instance (often at crisis point, as it can take up to 11 plus years before people seek help) being to told by a well informed professional about OCD is vital !

Diagnosis in Perinatal/Paternal OCD is vital too. Too often it is missed, or even misdiagnosed which is wrong , and leads onto further unnecessary suffering for all that are involved with the Disorder. Diagnosis gives all a good insight into the disorder , and importantly accessing correct evidence based treatments for OCD , that being CBT.

I recently did a poll on twitter and over 97% agreed that being given a diagnosis of OCD was beneficial in the sense that they could then go onto obtain information about the disorder , and use self help tools/books to work towards recovery , and importantly direct them onto good treatments , to help them regain their lives back

SO if you are a critic of diagnosis, take time to listen to those who have lived experiences, and yes OCD is a real disorder , but a very treatable one at that … and maybe just maybe with a diagnosis on board, it may help prevent further suffering and many more, unnecessary lost years …..

Ash

That’s all folks …. #AskAshOCD

Yes … that Is all folks … !!!

Tonight’s was the last #AskAshOCD twitter chat ….

It all started over 2 plus years ago , Diana from Maternal Ocd came up with the  suggestion, why not start a tweet chat and call it #askashocd  …and it went from strength to strength , the awareness of it all has been fantastic , some great knowledge sharing , and Therapists engaged and learnt from it too , some even using it as requested research tool … It was also a recognised hash tag by the charity Mind https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/your-stories/mental-health-hashtags-on-twitter/#.WR4Y4IWcFjo also …….

The Uk’s leading Ocd Charity , OCD  Action  charity have always supported me along the way , for which I am grateful too , they are fantastic charity of which I’m proud to continue to work alongside and volunteer for http://www.ocdaction.org.uk/

 

SO why end ~ #AskAshOCD you may ask … ? because I feel that it has served its purpose , awareness has changed hugely over the last 2-3 years , and that’s brilliant !! so , time now for me to work at focusing on getting better help for people with ocd … talk is good , actions are better…

So a massive thank you to EVERYONE that has engaged with #askashocd over that time , And a HUGE HUGE thanks to an incredible lady , who has been my double act , of batman and robin , who has given up her time as a carer’s perspective , that is Annie Cairns from twitter ! and a ocd action volunteer x > https://thesecretillness.com/2015/09/22/annie/ @cairns1ann

 

Take care , it’s been an incredible journey . Thank you .

 

 

The Marathon for “mental health”

YES !! I am running the London marathon on the 23rd of April 2017. It will be my 3rd in 4 years !!

You may have noticed the media coverage this year is , and has been focussed on “mental health” through the the charity “heads together” which is a “good” thing , aiming it towards people to “open up” about mental health, it is good to talk !! Lets reduce stigma too !! Yes yes yes …… many of us have been doing this for years also !! BUT no only getting people to talk , the importance I and others have done is to focus on the real issues and that is being able to access correct support, evidence based treatments , looking to increase better outcomes for people that have already “talked” !! because for many , it has been atrocious , very !!!

So yes , TALK ! REDUCE STIGMA , but lets not keep putting a sticky plaster on a broken leg , because it doe not work ever !

Going back to me personally , re the marathon itself , I am really looking forwards to it (although training has been difficult due to nasty virus) and I will give it my best shot , because running for such an incredible charity, Tourette’s action , gives me pleasure in knowing the money raised will really benefit those that live and care for , re support groups, support, research , and as a sufferer myself I know how difficult the syndrome can be , but it must never stand in your way EVER

 

Ash.